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jamie anderson melbourne, victoria australia Plays: Guitar
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Michelle - I totally understand what your saying but as we Aussies say fair dinkum everyone has problems i don't need to hear what depression is all about been there myself and honestly 99 out of 100 people have these days we hit a point in life where ya have a sense of worthlessness but like i said and will say again it doesn't take balls the size of Texas to do yourself in it takes balls the size of the US to stick around and deal with what this world throws at ya and to just up and do such a selfish act with no regard for who you leave behind there is no other word for it but selfish and as for love and love some more your damn right i feel sorry for his friends and family left behind and the rest of the people in this world who love to live and cherish everyday whether good or bad.
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Wed Mar 7 '12 1:16:05 pm
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cheese101
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Chelle honey, I feel your pain and wish I could take it all from you. So much to deal with all at once. I hope E's friend will be okay, how awful for her to have to go through so much at such a tender age. And for momma, much love and prayers to you all, no matter what comes or when. Love ya.
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Wed Mar 7 '12 1:22:09 pm
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turbo236
Ian Wise Nampa, ID USA Plays: Guitar (19 years)
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I wouldn't go so far as to call suicide selfish. It's not like these people are in their right mind at the time. Trust me, I've been there more than once; just haven't pulled the trigger. I struggle with really bad depression and PTSD from the war every single day, and like I said, many times I have been to the point that I thought the best thing for me was to kill myself. Not because one particular thing set me off. Not because my life sucks or any such thing like that; but because I live with demons in my head, nightmares in my sleep, obsessive habits that I can't shake, yada, yada, yada. The one thing that's kept me hanging on is the thought of not wanting to put my wife through another suicide (her dad died that way). Do I have life insurance? No. Do I consider the $20,000 in debt that I've accumulated this year or any other burden it would place upon her? No. I don't think that makes me "selfish". But, like I said, I'm in a different world at that point. All I can think about is why I should die and then I weigh my options. Fortunately, so far I've managed to talk myself out of it every time.
I don't think anybody truly WANTS to kill themselves, there just happens to be a chemical imbalance in their brain or other contributing factors that lead them to believe that suicide is the only out and that's when you forget about leaving your family behind and all the bad stuff that they are stuck with.
I'm not trying to say that suicide is right by any means, i'm just saying that it definitely isn't selfish when you look into it a little deeper and try to understand it from that persons perspective.
Sorry for the rant.....
Ian
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Wed Mar 7 '12 2:10:14 pm
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michelle
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TurboIan, it's not right by any means. I agree. It's a bad decision made in a split second. You have to have a mantra or something for those times. Something that keeps you HERE. I know it gets rough, but I hope your memories fade, you get the help you need, and you and your wife grow old together. I'm so sorry you thousands of others had to - and still have to- go through that.
Jamie, I understand your anger. Fair enough.
Hellfredo, that was nice, thanks.
T-Bones, hugs.
Ally, congrats for your fancy achievement and certification. You're cramtastic in a pinch!
McD, thanks.
castle, he's kind of in denial. It seemed that he understood the clear message the doctor gave us yesterday, but then later in the day when I saw him again and we talked, he didn't want to discuss the issues that we're coming up on. He also keeps putting things off for "later". He's over tired, not eating right, under stress, and scared. My niece took dinner to him at the hospital tonight. We all have to keep an eye on him. Thanks for asking.
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Wed Mar 7 '12 2:37:52 pm
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castle49
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My dad has dementia, and when my mother died on their vacation to Antartica/South America, though he was there he still does not understand where she is. He cannot process the information, or does not want to.
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Wed Mar 7 '12 3:45:25 pm
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aussieRGman
Jason Ramsay planet nowra, NSW Australia Plays: Guitar (48 years)
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hi castle49, i know what your going thru with the dementia, with your dad, my mum had it , very tough , the best bit, not that its a good thing , is that they dont know they have it, like my mum would always say when in hospital, take me home im fine, but she wasnt , but she didnt know anybetter..
Sometimes life gives you crap days and good days,
i had alot of health issues last year and hope ill be ok this year, and even tho id love to work full time but just coulndt due to my health issues i feel guilty about it ..
but thats life..
hope your feeling ok michelle
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Wed Mar 7 '12 9:22:18 pm
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aussieRGman
Jason Ramsay planet nowra, NSW Australia Plays: Guitar (48 years)
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thanks cheese, i hope so too, i have been playing my guitar again too
my site
And i do a weekly pop / rock radio show on our local community fm station which is fun too..
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Thu Mar 8 '12 12:11:04 am
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mark greed1000
mark greed hillingdon, uxbridge greater london Plays: Guitar (31 years)
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hi joe when are u coming back to london to rock?i was in the front row at the exel arena 2008 what a show man and you threw me 3 picks 2 of them i lost it drove me crazy take care mark greed.
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Thu Mar 8 '12 12:37:42 am
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sonic mayhym
chris velie anchorage, alaska united states Plays: Guitar (44 years)
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Joe.. please Alaska desperately needs a show...we are so left out of the loop on everything and bad enough were treated like another country buy our country...fellow long time musician Michael schenker just played here with robin mccauley...great guitar show....we could use another..hell joe we are the largest state...how about a g3 in anchorage...there is 300,000 of us here just in anchorage...how about a big show for the biggest state...please!!!!
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Thu Mar 8 '12 2:18:47 am
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roo
Andrew Longhorn iphone app: RooSatch Australia Plays: Guitar (34 years)
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Hey, so everyone knows Joseph kony right?
Man, kidnapping 30,000 children? Holy crap! He needs to be stopped.
Roo supports the effort to expose him, find him and bring him to justice!
Roo
Posted using Talk2Joe - one of Roo's iPhone apps
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Thu Mar 8 '12 2:41:54 am
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Razgriz
Joaquin Peloso San Miguel, Buenos Aires Argentina Plays: Guitar (15 years)
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Hey Joe, here in Argentina we are wondering when you are going to come man! We need some Satch around here.. pronto! hahaha Thanks and I hope you get to answer me!!
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Thu Mar 8 '12 7:30:44 am
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castle49
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He's doing OK Michelle. I did not know much about it until the fateful trip. I found a great place for him that is very homelike and he has taken over the duties of taking care of the birds and the neighbor's cat. My mom never wanted pets and he is a lifelong animal lover. That part of him remains. Horrible disease though.
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Thu Mar 8 '12 10:11:30 am
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Two Shay
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Singapore, Ube, Yamaguchi, Tokyo, Dubai, Copenhagen, Kalundborg, Bilbao in the last couple of weeks, munich then home tomorrow. Knackered but it pays the bills. You can pop round for a beer on Sunday if you like Joe but don't bring that bozo Sammy! He drank all my best hooch last time.
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Thu Mar 8 '12 11:15:48 am
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wolf2
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How are yeah today. everything is fine with me man spring has arrived lots of water around wearing rubber hunting booots.Did some rdieing last night this moring the 406 man it burned 10 bucks.I won a pretty cool prize the other day from the wolf man you know how gas is like 1.50 a litre whic is a pint in Canada the wolf had a contenets man rif this! it,s callled where you guess the name of the song from the guitar chop and be the correct calller it was lets dance david bowie andyways i won a bruce sprinstein disc the new one 50 .00 to use at pionnner cash station or their store Im buying transmion and two stroke oil and 2 movie dvd of somekind cant remeber and 2 international cenetr custom car show tickets with the fonze their rons picking it up my cmha worker yeah the wolf phoned wanted a photocpoy of my licence sent with ron to pick up the 50..00 pioneer fuel card i sent hime with it told him he can have the car show passes ille pick the oil up in the spring beside cycle salvage theirs apionneer station im gonnna try to make a used carb work itll be almost 200.00 cheaper if i can so it should be a beuatiful used carbuerator though dont know what do dto about the formulamx man it,s deffinetly the crankseal hey have new ones put in keep rideing abort because age have no1 winter transportation ro or buy a new on ewill see most likely im pulling the enegine out taken it to bridnorth to r and j machine to have the botttom opened and new seals put in proble couple few hundred then put it back in and probably keep rideing it so thats all my prizes will be here next cmha meeting next visit I will have a fillin worker rons on holidays so were good anyways talk to you later a case of oil is probbly around 40 bucks or something hopefullly they have 2 cycle il and thicker morto oil for my transmission but oil is cheaper at pioneer maybe 30 dbucks a case or something anyways talk to you later wolfie2.
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Thu Mar 8 '12 11:18:32 am
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